Question: For return address mailing labels, what is the correct etiquette for the order in the first name? Does the husband or the wife’s name come first?e.g. John and Jane Doe  or  Jane and John Doe? Martha The Everyday Etiquette Answer: Martha, This is a very popular question. I know that there are differing opinions out there among etiquette experts. Personally, I have always believed that it is "ladies first" and that the gentleman’s first and last name should not be separated unless children’s names are being included in a signature (i.e. a Christmas card). My recommendation would be:Jane and John Doe I hope this helps you out. Thank you for asking Everyday Etiquette. Ms. Carey Ask your own Everyday Etiquette questions